What is been popularly but erroneously called the G “spot” is the area on the upper wall of the vagina through which the urethral or “Skene’s” glands AKA prostate can be felt. The media picked up the term “G spot” from the book, The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries about Human Sexuality and has promulgated the notion of a “spot” on the upper wall of the vagina itself.
The search for a “spot” on the upper wall of the vagina, as opposed to searching for the prostate or urethral glands through the upper wall may be contributing to the difficulty of finding a single G “spot” and the controversy as to whether it exists at all.
Originally, it was thought that women only had *censored*oral orgasms. Now we are finding that one can experience an orgasm in just about any area of the body. The G-area orgasm is best described as a vaginal orgasm, which means it is generated and experienced mostly within the vaginal area. However, with practice and patience, the orgasms generated from this area can expand to include the whole body. Lovers playing with the G-area regularly have also expanded the woman’s orgiastic response from the average of 10-15 seconds to minutes and even hours!
To access it, a finger can be inserted inside the vagina, with the fingertip pad facing the *censored*oris, past the vaginal entry muscles, and follow the curve over the pubic bone so that your finger ends up on the other side of that bone. Your fingertip would be crooked, just over the bone, with the pad on this tissue.
The tissue has been compared with the male prostate. It feels a little like corrugated paper, with a ridgey texture. It is possible to stimulate this area with the penis as well. Once the woman knows how it feels (a little like the pressure when you have to urinate – it is best to evacuate the bladder before you begin G-play), then the two of you can experiment with positions and angles that work for her. An average or longer length of penis that curves back towards its owner’s body when erect has the easiest time accessing it. There have also been various wood and acrylic-type wands that have been designed just for this purpose for those who like extended play sessions. When choosing one of these wands, it works best if the wand is curved, like the one Nectar Products™ offers.
Now, in approaching the G-area, it is important to be aware of the special nature of this area. It has been realized in our bodies, that our cellular/muscular/organ structure also holds memory of past traumas, if they have not been properly and completely released. Have you ever heard of sexual healing? The G-area provides one of the most efficient and easiest ways to get there! The G-area is notably a place where a lot of emotions may be stored. Just as regular prostate massage is recommended for men to avoid prostate problems, it is actually a good idea for a woman’s sexual and emotional health to make time for special, health massage/healing G-area sessions on an ongoing basis, outside of the lovemaking arena. Then she can feel total permission to explore and release any tensions and traumas she may be holding there.
Therefore, whether you are with a woman who has never experienced this type of stimulation, or with someone who has, it is important to remember that if you choose to stimulate this area, you never know what type of response you may experience. She may jump into sexual ecstasy, she may feel nothing, or it might even be uncomfortable, even painful for her. Persistence on the part of both lovers will pay off in earthshaking dividends and profoundly, deeper intimacy, that we all crave, if they understand how to approach and surf the experience, whatever the response.
See our product catalogue for use of the “The Crystal Wand” for Yoni /Vulva/G -Spot Massage here.
By Shama and Dr. Gary Schuback