Male G-Spot Massage
Use of the Crystal Wand™ for prostate massage is
shown artfully in this video for Male Self Massage called
"Uranus", which can be purchased through Eros
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PELVIC SELF MASSAGE FOR MEN
by Marci Javril and Michelle Wortman.
published in Penthouse Magazine Smart Sex Column 10/01/1999,
by Dr. Judy Kuriansky.
Every guy alive would love his penis massaged, but if you
really want to be a great lover, pay attention to your whole
pelvis. Sadly, few men ever fool around there themselves,
few of their lovers know what to do, and fewer professional
masseuses delve into the pelvic area, fearing accusations
of sexual misconduct. But some sexual healers consider it
sacred work, and will even help you do-it-yourself. "The
goal is to help a guy articulate his pelvis so his whole
body can speak the language of love", says Marci Javril
of the Vital Energy Center in Los Angeles. That means activating
all the muscles front and back from belly button to pubic
bone, and from lower back to anus. The increased circulation,
muscle tone and mobility helps a man vibrate, undulate,
and last longer. Javril teaches men how to go beyond just
getting their rocks off, by using her "Tracing the
Diamond Under the Rocks" pelvic self-massage technique.
Lie on your back with feet propped up on a couch or pillows,
hips lifted in the air, penis and scrotum lying against
your stomach, out of the way (hold with one hand if necessary).
Locate the sit bones (bicycle bones) and "walk"
your fingertips in small steps forward along your inner
thigh and the base of your penis, to your pubic bone, then
back to the sit bones and diagonally pressing into your
butt cheeks to the base of your spine. Repeat tracing this
diamond shape for up to three minutes, breathing slowly
and relaxing. In "Sliding Down the Two Rivers"
lay your penis down between your legs and starting at the
top of the hipbone, slide your fingers or the flat of your
hand along a path three to four inches wide downward on
a diagonal towards the base of your penis, and up again.
Repeat ten times. Join your fingers at your belly button
and follow a similar wide path down your love trail to the
base of your penis and up again. Repeat ten times. Next
try out the "Lower Beltway Stroke", tracing hula-hoop-like
circles firmly, and slowly around the uppermost part of
your thighs, groin, and crease of the butt, then sliding
up and down either side of the muscles of the inner, outer
thigh, and back of the thigh.
"Most men are way too rigid in sex" says Michele
Wortman, a North Carolina massage therapist who specializes
in assisting men achieve "coccygeal release" (loosening
up the tailbone) to have a wider range of motion for forward
thrusts and hip rotations. "Releasing muscles around
the tailbone frees guys to feel up and down their spine,
to connect their little head with their big head."
Men with lower back pain, who hold in anger or feel like
a beaten dog tucking in its tail, need it most. Wortman's
internal massage accesses multiple muscle groups through
the rectum, but she coaches men on how to do her "Tailbone
Tango" technique themselves. Lay on your side and gently
move your index finger down to the tip of the spine (the
tailbone). Slide the index and middle fingers to either
side of the tailbone and make circular motions, applying
gentle pressure, for two minutes. In step 2, move the fingers
about one inch lower, under the tailbone (closer to the
anal opening), and press gently in small circular motions
for another two minutes. Relax and repeat. Don't give up.
If it feels tender, hold the spot and breathe until it subsides.
If you're tense, squeeze the anal muscles and release. If
you get eruptions of the skin (pimples, heat flashes, rash),
emotions (laughter, anger, bawling tears), thoughts, or
memories (of a past lover, childhood bully brawl), let them
surface, and they will pass (hard for guys, I know, but
well worth it).
"Don't expect to get aroused", insists Javril.
But I know such instructions are just the trick to get guys
to relax and rid the mind of performance anxiety so they
really turn on. Once you've mastered pelvic self-massage,
teach your lover how to do it to you. She'll welcome your
instructions. Then do it back to her, so both your pumps
will be primed for ecstasy.
Cynthia Lamborne is a leader in the field of
sacred sexuality and Tantra. Her background and training
includes: comprehensive study with several Tantric Masters;
extensive travel in Egypt, India and Nepal; 30 years of
training and experience with thousands of men and women
as an intimacy coach and workshop facilitator; and teaching
Transcendental Meditation for 10 years.