the Female G-Spot
What is been popularly but erroneously called the G “spot”
is the area on the upper wall of the vagina through which
the urethral or “Skene’s” glands AKA prostate
can be felt. The media picked up the term “G spot"
from the book, The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries about
Human Sexuality and has promulgated the notion of a “spot”
on the upper wall of the vagina itself.
The search for a “spot” on the upper wall of
the vagina, as opposed to searching for the prostate or
urethral glands through the upper wall may be contributing
to the difficulty of finding a single G “spot”
and the controversy as to whether it exists at all.
Originally, it was thought that women only had *censored*oral
orgasms. Now we are finding that one can experience an orgasm
in just about any area of the body. The G-area orgasm is
best described as a vaginal orgasm, which means it is generated
and experienced mostly within the vaginal area. However,
with practice and patience, the orgasms generated from this
area can expand to include the whole body. Lovers playing
with the G-area regularly have also expanded the woman's
orgiastic response from the average of 10-15 seconds to
minutes and even hours!
To access it, a finger can be inserted inside the vagina,
with the fingertip pad facing the *censored*oris, past the
vaginal entry muscles, and follow the curve over the pubic
bone so that your finger ends up on the other side of that
bone. Your fingertip would be crooked, just over the bone,
with the pad on this tissue.
The tissue has been compared with the male prostate. It
feels a little like corrugated paper, with a ridgey texture.
It is possible to stimulate this area with the penis as
well. Once the woman knows how it feels (a little like the
pressure when you have to urinate - it is best to evacuate
the bladder before you begin G-play), then the two of you
can experiment with positions and angles that work for her.
An average or longer length of penis that curves back towards
its owner's body when erect has the easiest time accessing
it. There have also been various wood and acrylic-type wands
that have been designed just for this purpose for those
who like extended play sessions. When choosing one of these
wands, it works best if the wand is curved, like the one
Nectar Products™ offers.
Now, in approaching the G-area, it is important to be aware
of the special nature of this area. It has been realized
in our bodies, that our cellular/muscular/organ structure
also holds memory of past traumas, if they have not been
properly and completely released. Have you ever heard of
sexual healing? The G-area provides one of the most efficient
and easiest ways to get there! The G-area is notably a place
where a lot of emotions may be stored. Just as regular prostate
massage is recommended for men to avoid prostate problems,
it is actually a good idea for a woman's sexual and emotional
health to make time for special, health massage/healing
G-area sessions on an ongoing basis, outside of the lovemaking
arena. Then she can feel total permission to explore and
release any tensions and traumas she may be holding there.
Therefore, whether you are with a woman who has never experienced
this type of stimulation, or with someone who has, it is
important to remember that if you choose to stimulate this
area, you never know what type of response you may experience.
She may jump into sexual ecstasy, she may feel nothing,
or it might even be uncomfortable, even painful for her.
Persistence on the part of both lovers will pay off in earthshaking
dividends and profoundly, deeper intimacy, that we all crave,
if they understand how to approach and surf the experience,
whatever the response.
By Shama and Dr. Gary Schuback
Cynthia Lamborne is a leader in the field of
sacred sexuality and Tantra. Her background and training
includes: comprehensive study with several Tantric Masters;
extensive travel in Egypt, India and Nepal; 30 years of
training and experience with thousands of men and women
as an intimacy coach and workshop facilitator; and teaching
Transcendental Meditation for 10 years.