Male G-Spot Massage Techniques

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PELVIC SELF MASSAGE FOR MEN

by Marci Javril and Michelle Wortman.
published in Penthouse Magazine Smart Sex Column 10/01/1999, by Dr. Judy Kuriansky.

Every guy alive would love his penis massaged, but if you really want to be a great lover, pay attention to your whole pelvis. Sadly, few men ever fool around there themselves, few of their lovers know what to do, and fewer professional masseuses delve into the pelvic area, fearing accusations of sexual misconduct. But some sexual healers consider it sacred work, and will even help you do-it-yourself. "The goal is to help a guy articulate his pelvis so his whole body can speak the language of love", says Marci Javril of the Vital Energy Center in Los Angeles. That means activating all the muscles front and back from belly button to pubic bone, and from lower back to anus. The increased circulation, muscle tone and mobility helps a man vibrate, undulate, and last longer. Javril teaches men how to go beyond just getting their rocks off, by using her "Tracing the Diamond Under the Rocks" pelvic self-massage technique.

Lie on your back with feet propped up on a couch or pillows, hips lifted in the air, penis and scrotum lying against your stomach, out of the way (hold with one hand if necessary). Locate the sit bones (bicycle bones) and "walk" your fingertips in small steps forward along your inner thigh and the base of your penis, to your pubic bone, then back to the sit bones and diagonally pressing into your butt cheeks to the base of your spine. Repeat tracing this diamond shape for up to three minutes, breathing slowly and relaxing. In "Sliding Down the Two Rivers" lay your penis down between your legs and starting at the top of the hipbone, slide your fingers or the flat of your hand along a path three to four inches wide downward on a diagonal towards the base of your penis, and up again. Repeat ten times. Join your fingers at your belly button and follow a similar wide path down your love trail to the base of your penis and up again. Repeat ten times. Next try out the "Lower Beltway Stroke", tracing hula-hoop-like circles firmly, and slowly around the uppermost part of your thighs, groin, and crease of the butt, then sliding up and down either side of the muscles of the inner, outer thigh, and back of the thigh.

"Most men are way too rigid in sex" says Michele Wortman, a North Carolina massage therapist who specializes in assisting men achieve "coccygeal release" (loosening up the tailbone) to have a wider range of motion for forward thrusts and hip rotations. "Releasing muscles around the tailbone frees guys to feel up and down their spine, to connect their little head with their big head." Men with lower back pain, who hold in anger or feel like a beaten dog tucking in its tail, need it most. Wortman's internal massage accesses multiple muscle groups through the rectum, but she coaches men on how to do her "Tailbone Tango" technique themselves. Lay on your side and gently move your index finger down to the tip of the spine (the tailbone). Slide the index and middle fingers to either side of the tailbone and make circular motions, applying gentle pressure, for two minutes. In step 2, move the fingers about one inch lower, under the tailbone (closer to the anal opening), and press gently in small circular motions for another two minutes. Relax and repeat. Don't give up. If it feels tender, hold the spot and breathe until it subsides. If you're tense, squeeze the anal muscles and release. If you get eruptions of the skin (pimples, heat flashes, rash), emotions (laughter, anger, bawling tears), thoughts, or memories (of a past lover, childhood bully brawl), let them surface, and they will pass (hard for guys, I know, but well worth it).

"Don't expect to get aroused", insists Javril. But I know such instructions are just the trick to get guys to relax and rid the mind of performance anxiety so they really turn on. Once you've mastered pelvic self-massage, teach your lover how to do it to you. She'll welcome your instructions. Then do it back to her, so both your pumps will be primed for ecstasy.

About Cynthia
Cynthia Lamborne is a leader in the field of sacred sexuality and Tantra. Her background and training includes: comprehensive study with several Tantric Masters; extensive travel in Egypt, India and Nepal; 30 years of training and experience with thousands of men and women as an intimacy coach and workshop facilitator; and teaching Transcendental Meditation for 10 years.
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