One Wand You Want
crystal for a new age of lesbians and heterosexual women alike!
published in ON OUR BACKS Magazine.
By now many
of you have heard of the G-spot and female ejaculation. You
may have even found it. For those of you who are still on the
quest or those who just want more, more, more, there is a new
toy on the market that has the penetration junkies all abuzz.
The Crystal Wand™
is 10 inches of clear acrylic, hand molded into a shallow S
shape. I first heard about it from Raven and Kate. They teach
a seminar which is a hands-on exploration of the female sexuaI
anatomy, and with a particular interest in female ejaculation.
A class like theirs is obviously not for the faint of heart,
and I have yet to get up the gumption to go, but the two teachers
came into Toys in Babeland to get lube, gloves, and other supplies
for the class and to tell us about the Crystal Wand™.
The Crystal Wand™
is one of those designed-by-a-woman-for-a-woman types of toys.
It comes with a brochure explaining a bit about female pleasure
and power. The basic idea is this: the G-spot is hard to reach
with one's own hands because it is tucked a couple of inches
up the front wall of the vagina. When you do find it with your
finger it's difficult to bang on very hard because of the angle.
The Crystal Wand™
makes it easy to reach your own G-spot and, of course, works
with a partner too. Chris told me her story: "I had a great
experience with a lover who truly seemed to have, magic fingers,'
but I couldn't repeat the feeling by myself or with my current
lover. When I got the Crystal Wand™
I tried it on myself, and it worked! Then I showed my lover
how to use it on me. We're both happier now that I'm not pining
for ol' Miss Magic".
The key to the
success is its shape. Kate told me that in her experience, no
other dildo or vibrator had worked as well. "The only way
I had ever ejaculated was from fisting. I tried some other devices,
but they were all hard to use; either my wrist got tweaked or
I had to hold a weird position. When I put the Crystal
Wand™ in, it
hits my G-spot exactly, and I can easily give myself the sensations
I want." Donna concurs, "I like my penetration to
be forceful. The S of the wand curves up and makes a little
handle that is easy t o push on hard without getting tired."
Some women find that the stabbing motions of a straight dildo
just don't do the trick. For Carla, the best penetration "feels
like pulling, not pushing. The S of the wand grabs in the right
place, and then I sort of pull it down towards my knees and
next thing you know I'm squirting buckets."
Randi first saw the
in a group-sex setting. "I knew right away that I had to
have it. It took me a while to track it down, but now I love
it so much that I gave each of my two best friends one as a
gift. They cost $50, which is well worth it." Nicol told
me, "I'm blessed with long fingers and can reach my G-spot
fine on my own, but I like the wand for variety. Plus it's pretty.
I use it for a paper weight at work, and no one is the wiser."
Rachel Venning is the
cofounder of Toys in Babeland, a Seattle and Web-based sex toy
During one love making session, something deeply
emotional started to be triggered in me. My lover was spent.
Though by having the wand available, we were able to continue
the deep physical, emotional, and spiritual opening which became
a great healing for me.
A totally new feeling awakened in us both as
my lover was inside my vagina. We used the wand movement in
my anus, this stimulated him because of its curved shape and
it stimulated my G spot, creating an intense sensual pleasure
and Kundalini energy experience all at once.
Other variations are: his using the wand inside
while being inside of me, gave him the androgynous feeling of
simultaneously opening to receive and trusting to give his male
energy to me. This is a very brief description of a very powerful
greater experience than these words can do justice to.
Cynthia Lamborne is a leader in the field of sacred sexuality
and Tantra. Her background and training includes: comprehensive
study with several Tantric Masters; extensive travel in Egypt,
India and Nepal; 30 years of training and experience with thousands
of men and women as an intimacy coach and workshop facilitator;
and teaching Transcendental Meditation for 10 years.